So my heart doesn't skip a beat when I see them. My throat doesn't go dry when I try to speak, and when we touch I don't feel butterflies. But there are definitely things that I love to see in women... and that hopefully will continue to develop as I make friends and try to become a better person. Here are a few of them. These probably used to be on the "ideal wife" list before I scrapped it.

1. Strong body. I love being able to run alongside someone and not have to stop... or to work together doing heavy lifting or manual labor. It doesn't have to be bodybuilder strength - just the ability to do anything she will need to do, and to work alongside me.

2. Strong mind. I'm intense. I love women who counter my intensity with their own and who can think about every subject under the sun - who make me think about life and all its majesties.

3. Strong will. I love women who have their own thoughts and opinions on life, and who are assertive - who aren't afraid to share them. ("How about a girl who's got a brain and always speaks her mind?")

4. Strong Spirit. I love women who have developed a depth of character by following the Spirit in their lives. They listen to God, have a personal relationship with Him, and integrate the gospel into every aspect of their lives. And, with their faith in God, nothing is impossible.

5. Love for others. This is not tolerance or acceptance of others. To me, those are low-tier feelings, when love is definitely a dozen tiers higher. I appreciate women who see people as they are and who they can become - and do everything in their power to help them come closer to Christ... including me.

6+. I love women who make me laugh, make me cry, inspire me to be a better man... women who love to lose themselves in my presence and who can command the attention of a crowded room... women who love children and everything in life, who are incredibly optimistic (because of faith - not naïveté), and who are anxious to give everything in their lives to bless the lives of others and to build the Kingdom of God.

There are a lot of things that I value in women - probably because I value many of them in my own life. I may not be able to answer the blond or brunette questions, or even tell you what color eyes I like best... but as far as spiritually, mentally, and socially... I feel like I'm able to understand the types of women I might be compatible with. I think. At least that's my thought right now; if God indicates a different direction I'll definitely follow it.
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